The Myth of Male Power

The Myth of Male Power

The Myth of Male Power

Below are links to an audio podcast of an interview with Warren Farrell, the author of the book “The Myth of Male Power” (Interview host – Tom Howard).

It’s an in depth discussion into the gender politics that we face today, and provides a lot of statistics, and discusses a lot of the myths, around gender power imbalances. Every male should listen to this podcast even if just to consider how it does, or does not, apply to him.

Many people (feminists, mostly) argue that this is outdated information, that his sources are whack, or that he is only looking at one side of the issue. In some cases I agree, but in most cases he is actually looking at stuff that men need to hear and think about, to then make up their own minds.

One thing I have learnt from listening to this podcast, is that there is no generic solution or generic truth about the power imbalance between the genders. Everyone lives to different standards in their work, relationships, and personal experiences. But the knowledge shared here, is as important to discuss today as it was when the book was first published. And for many men, they would never have even thought about these things, let alone dared to discuss them with a woman. We need to talk about this stuff! It is about finding a mutual solution, not laying the blame.

If feminists really want equality, then lets start to talk about men’s perception of that, don’t just shut the male side of the conversation down or shrug it off. This, is the male side of the conversation. 

The podcast in 4 parts:


(Below are two downloadable PDF documents (Part I and Part II) that are transcipts of the interview taken from https://newmalestudies.com)

MythOfMalePower-Transcript_part_I

MythOfMalePower-Transcript_Part_II


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Audiobook Excerpts from “The Experience” by Mark Berry & Jodie Eade

AudioBook Excerpts

“The Experience, A Gentleman’s Guide to Threesomes: Exploring Relationship, Sexual Energy & Western Tantra” by Mark Berry & Jodie Eade

Book Description:

“This book is far more than just an instruction manual for a successful threesome, it is a guide for navigating through the challenges that present even when we try to just discuss our sexual wants and desires in any kind of honest way.

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The Anatomy of Violence : Part 1 – Shame

The Anatomy of Violence : Part 1 – Shame

In this article we will look in depth at the root cause of violence. In it we present why it is shame that we find at the root of it, and then present ways in which professional therapists, specialised in violent behaviour, have come to recognise and address the problem.

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Conflict Resolution Method: Talking from the “I”

Conflict Resolution Method: Talking from the “I”

Conflict is often caused by the language we use, not the subject.

One of the biggest reasons a discussion becomes conflict is that we feel blamed, shamed, accused, or that unacceptable demands are being made of us by another. Our sense of self is challenged and we rise to defend it, and rightly so.

This problem is not exclusive to relationships, it effects the entire world. Look at any Social Media spat or gender based argument, most of the time they go in circles with accusation followed by defence of the listeners position because they feel targeted, and then they throw it right back in the same way. It then becomes a fight for dominance of the argument, and the fight becomes nothing to do with the subject matter. Any chance of solution has then become derailed, it has become personal. Then we become stuck in a loop pattern, returning to the same fights, with the same people, and getting nowhere when we do.

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Evolving Through The Karpman Drama Triangle

Evolving Through The Karpman Drama Triangle

An Audio Podcast reading of the original version of this blog is also available on Youtube (click here) (This article was first published in 2015 and has been re-posted here with some edits for clarity so varies slightly from the video version.)

Intro

This is a suggestion for an evolutionary approach to solve, or rather dissolve, the Karpman Drama Power Triangle dynamic of Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer.

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Book: The Experience, A Gentleman’s Guide to Threesomes. (Available on Amazon)


A Gentleman’s Guide to Threesomes

Exploring Relationship, Sexual Energy & Western Tantra 

“Going uneducated into a threesome is like a one-armed man trying to navigate Cape Horn in a blindfold and in a dinghy.” — Most men who have tried.

Charting a course through the straits of a threesome without becoming dashed on the rocks of despair has long been the dream of many a man. In this book, revealed for the first time, are a set of guidelines as important for women to know as they are for men. Whether it be couples on a journey to explore their desires or curious singles bound for sexual adventures on the high seas, what lies within these pages is a map, a chart, a pathway. Explanations and explorations to get you safely through to the mysterious world that lies beyond, on the waves of sexual energy. The map is documented within these pages, and defined by ‘The Experience’.

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