“Stuff” that rules your life – how we became minimalists by default

Minimalism  – its all over you tube, face book groups,Instagram and pinterest. Getting rid of, letting go, etc etc. The concept is brilliant and yet its more than just throwing out those t shirts you don’t wear and decluttering a drawer every so often. For us it has become a way of life by default. We didn’t sit down and consciously decided to become minimalists. It just sort of happened.

We started travelling. “Stuff” was in storage in two different cities and then we came back to Australia and what to do with all that “stuff”. Well we couldn’t take it to where we were going to live and besides, we were only home to earn some more money so that we could leave the country again, so it wasn’t really worth getting it all out.  Continue reading

The Anatomy of Violence : Part 1 – Shame

The Anatomy of Violence : Part 1 – Shame

In this article we will look in depth at the root cause of violence. In it we present why it is shame that we find at the root of it, and then present ways in which professional therapists, specialised in violent behaviour, have come to recognise and address the problem.

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Facilitator and founder at The Temple Space. As well as working on The Temple Space projects, Mark has authored books and composed music, some of which can be found on The Temple Space website, through the links below, or via www.mdkberry.com

Conflict Resolution Method: Talking from the “I”

Conflict Resolution Method: Talking from the “I”

Conflict is often caused by the language we use, not the subject.

One of the biggest reasons a discussion becomes conflict is that we feel blamed, shamed, accused, or that unacceptable demands are being made of us by another. Our sense of self is challenged and we rise to defend it, and rightly so.

This problem is not exclusive to relationships, it effects the entire world. Look at any Social Media spat or gender based argument, most of the time they go in circles with accusation followed by defence of the listeners position because they feel targeted, and then they throw it right back in the same way. It then becomes a fight for dominance of the argument, and the fight becomes nothing to do with the subject matter. Any chance of solution has then become derailed, it has become personal. Then we become stuck in a loop pattern, returning to the same fights, with the same people, and getting nowhere when we do.

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Facilitator and founder at The Temple Space. As well as working on The Temple Space projects, Mark has authored books and composed music, some of which can be found on The Temple Space website, through the links below, or via www.mdkberry.com

Evolving Through The Karpman Drama Triangle

Evolving Through The Karpman Drama Triangle

An Audio Podcast reading of the original version of this blog is also available on Youtube (click here) (This article was first published in 2015 and has been re-posted here with some edits for clarity so varies slightly from the video version.)

Intro

This is a suggestion for an evolutionary approach to solve, or rather dissolve, the Karpman Drama Power Triangle dynamic of Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer.

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Facilitator and founder at The Temple Space. As well as working on The Temple Space projects, Mark has authored books and composed music, some of which can be found on The Temple Space website, through the links below, or via www.mdkberry.com

A 3 Law Approach to Understanding Human Behaviour & Conduct

A 3 Law Approach to Understanding Human Behaviour & Conduct

1. Human Law

Human Law is basically built from two things: Moral Code and the collective cultural beliefs of the era that you find yourself in.

We use Human Law all the time to try to understand our position in the Universe and figure out how we should behave in it. But what happens when we land outside of Human Law, how do we cope? Then we need to look at Natures Law but first let us understand Human Law in the context we mean to discuss it here.

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Facilitator and founder at The Temple Space. As well as working on The Temple Space projects, Mark has authored books and composed music, some of which can be found on The Temple Space website, through the links below, or via www.mdkberry.com